When we’re faced with a problem, it’s natural to solve it using our natural MBTI® preferences. For example, if you prefer ISTJ and you are trying to solve a problem in your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s natural for you to:
• I: Use Introversion to spend time reflecting on the problem
• S: Use Sensing to look at the reality of the situation and practical alternatives
• T: Use Thinking to analyze the problem objectively
• J: Use Judging to come to a conclusion quickly
As natural as that might be, here’s the problem: There are eight preferences, not just four! When we solve problems using only the four preferences that are natural to us, we overlook valuable information and make lopsided decisions!
To make well-rounded, thorough decisions, we need to also engage our four opposite preferences. For an ISTJ, that would mean engaging his or her opposite preferences of E, N, F, and P. So the ISTJ would:
• E: Use Extraversion to talk to others to get their perspective on the situation
• N: Use Intuition to consider other possible ways of looking at the problem and other alternatives to solving it
• F: Use Feeling to consider how his or her boyfriend or girlfriend might feel about the situation
• P: Use Perceiving to stay open to letting the situation unfold
When you’re making a decision, remember to look at your opposite preferences, as described above. Have you taken those into account? When you use your four opposite preferences in addition to your four preferences, you won’t just make a natural decision—you’ll make a good decision!
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